Sunday 29 May 2011

Money Matters!

Money Matters!
By
Kenn Griffiths.
Gentleman Founder of the Red Blooded Male Club.

“A real gentleman, even if he loses everything he owns, must show no emotion. Money must be so far beneath a gentleman that it is hardly worth troubling about” Fyodor Dostoevsky

Who Pays?

The rule of thumb is that whoever has requested the pleasure pays for it.

A gentleman must always be prepared to pay but not if to do so would embarrass.

In female company always offer and expect to pay, but be prepared to back down and allow the lady to pay if she insists.

In male company do allow others to have their turn to pay. If there’s one who never pays then do not under any circumstances bring that fact to attention in company. If necessary choose a time when you are alone with the abstainer and discretely ask if all is well financially and offer any help that may be needed, but only if asked to do so. If the time is not right to probe then leave well alone and continue to pick up the tab or choose not to be in the person’s company when payment is expected. Keep your own council and never enter into a conversation about it with others.

If someone else is paying be modest and keep to the mid price menu. If you are paying allow your guests to choose what ever they want to. Do not order for them or point them to the cheapest options. If dinning in a group the bill should be split equally; there should be no questioning about who had what and the differences in pricing.

Gratuities are always discretional even when included as a service charge. If you haven’t had the service you deserved then do not leave a tip. Don’t however make a fuss. Excusing yourself from the table and discretely making your views known to the management, out of the ears and gaze of everyone else, is the best way to approach the problem. If this is not possible leave the tip and take the matter up at a more appropriate time.

At the races or casino never show that loosing is a problem. In essence if you can’t afford to lose then don’t go.

If you have wealth, do ensure that you never mention it, especially when in poorer company. Talking about the cost of anything is a definite no-no. The only place where it is acceptable to talk finances is with your accountant or bank manager. So that means you should not advise your friends about shares or investments without their asking and then only if you are alone and really do have knowledge of the subject and even then you should be reserved in your answers.

A Helping Hand.

Never lend money to a friend or family member if you can’t afford to ‘write it off’. Likewise, if you have acted as guarantor, do not go looking for your ‘pound of flesh’ if you are called upon to stand your guarantee.

Borrowing money is best left to your bank or a similar institution. If there’s no alternative, whether lending or borrowing make it legal. Have a contract written that sets out all of the expectations and possible recourse if things go wrong and use a trained mediator to broker a deal or sort out future repayments.

Copyright 2011 Kenn Griffiths, All Rights Reserved.

About the author:

Kenn Griffiths is a writer, former soldier, Investigator, Social Worker and founder of: http://www.theredbloodedmaleclub.blogspot.com

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The Red Blooded Male Club (Outline)


The Red Blooded Male Club

This club is dedicated to all gentlemen everywhere.

Why do we need a club? Simply because since the 1960’s the innate role of the red blooded male has been eroded to the point where we’ve lost the skills and traits that true women really love about us. Here we’ll re-visit the male domain, that place that men crave for, not in a chauvinistic way but as a true man, certainly not a threat to women.

This club is simply a must for any male who wants to conduct himself as ‘one of the boys’ all you need is a sense of adventure, a commitment to the species and a dedication to your birth right, being a man!

From here on you’ll wonder how we’ve survived for so long without being true to ourselves.

Don’t be afraid to acknowledge that; to be the best you have to beat the rest, with honour and grace!!

About our founder: Kenn Griffiths http://www.kenngriffiths.com